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Turning 30

I am turning 30 today. I thought I didn't really care about that number. It didn't matter, it's just a number I told myself, same as 29, or 28. But as it turns out, I am a little sad. I am sad that I will no longer be in my 20s, the decade I considered undeniably "young". This is also a time that is making me introspect about what I am yet to do, yet to learn and yet to achieve. It is silly really, but I think all the years of brainwashing that society and movies drill into you have had an effect on me. I thought I was immune to this, but apparently I am not. 

But, if you look at it another way, I needn't be sad at all. In fact, I should be happy that I am still young and have seen a little bit of life and therefore am wiser. So today, I want to remind myself of all the good things in my life and also of all that I have achieved so far, the goals I had set that have been completed, or are at least on their way to completion. 

  1. I am an independent working woman and live my life on my own terms.
  2. I may not be as well off to own the big things, but I am comfortable, comfortable enough to be able to send some money home every month and yet not feel deprived for the lack of it.
  3. According to my mentor, I have made good professional decisions about my career and am on the right path. This validation is very important to me as I respect him a lot and know that if he says something, it is to be believed.
  4. I have faced a lot of struggle during my childhood and am so much the stronger for it. It has shaped my personality in a way that I am grateful for. 
  5. I have become comfortable living alone, even started enjoying it. This is something that makes you stronger and realize your strengths and weaknesses like nothing can. 
  6. I have been in a stable relationship for more than 5 years now and feel proud and lucky to have found the right person who is on the same page as me and understands me so well.
  7. I have cultivated some good friendships over the years and even though I may not see them as often as I would like to, I know that they have my back and I theirs. And, I am so grateful to have them in my life.
  8. I have a wonderful family who have given me the freedom to do what I like, who love me unconditionally and support me wholeheartedly no matter what!
  9. I have done some travelling, have seen new places and am all geared up to see more in the coming years. 
  10. I have not shied away from learning new things, even those that have put me out of my comfort zone and am so much the richer for it!
So, all I want to say to myself today is "Happy birthday. You are doing well. Just keep at it. :) :)" 



  1. Happy birthday Rati! And welcome to the club.. I joined only a couple of months ago but I can tell you - life isn't all that bad, quite the opposite, actually :)

    1. Thanks Madhumita. :) Good to know I have friends to show me the path. :D :P

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  3. Hi Ratidi, this is Sanjoy. I just read your piece in Elixer, and finding it so true to my experience, I came to the blog from the given link. The relative isolation of postdoc life really forces me to rethink all things.

  4. Thanks Sanjoy. Yes, postdoc life is pretty lonely. But, it's also a time for immense growth. :) Hope you are taking in as much as you can during this phase of your career. :)


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